What if I don't wanna be the boat?

Tonight Belle, Ariel and I decided to play Geo-Trax. Belle and I set up the tracks while Ariel linked the trains together. Belle then assigned duties to Ariel and I. "Mommy, you are the boat. Ariel, you drive the train and I am the airplane."

I deviated from my role as the boat, and was quickly reprimanded. "Mommy, you can't play with the boxes, those are for the airplane, you need to put gas in the boat!"

I am not one to be pushed around, so I told Ariel that she needs to let people play how they want to. I want to play with the boxes and the fire engine for awhile. For five minutes I listened to Ariel's instructions. "All the trees need to go here. The boat needs to go in the water. That is not the water. These signs don't go here. Mommy, stack these boxes. Ariel, drive your train this way." Finally I decided to go downstairs and make some tea.

"Okay Mommy, but you have to bring your tea back upstairs with you." Belle says.

I muttered something that she must of taken as a yes, because she let me go. Honestly, I couldn't take the bossiness any more. Belle is reigning supreme over the play room. She has a crown and knows how to use it. I want to put a stop to it, but the only person it is bothering, is me.

Ariel is completely fine playing with Belle. She either follows Belle's instruction, or she ignores Belle, depending on if she finds Belle's suggestions favorable or not. Maybe I should follow Ariel's lead. Maybe a two year old is better equip to deal with a bossy three year old than I am.

While downstairs sipping my tea and typing this post, I can still here Belle telling Ariel what to do. I go upstairs to investigate, and find Belle sitting on the toilet giving commands. Yes, folks she has found her throne. "Ariel, now you need to run down the stairs."

Ariel replies "Okay, Belle," and off she goes.

She goes down the stairs as fast as her little legs can carry her. When she gets to the bottom, she turns around and goes back upstairs, happily. Ariel returns to the bathroom where Belle has come up with a new task for her sister. I go downstairs again. Downstairs where it is quite and peaceful.

Everyone is happy. I'm not sure if I should intervene. Is she bossy or is she just showing great leadership skills? If I instruct her to not tell others what to do, will I put an end to her future as a CEO? Can I keep quiet and let her learn how to tame her bossiness into something more pleasant by experiencing the natural consequences of being demanding? Currently the natural consequence is that her Mommy doesn't want to play with her anymore. But, don't tell her that. I don't want to hurt her feelings.